DA Club III

[Tawnya]

{{Pearl}} actually..I hope in the end I Didn't appear needy cause I told hub I was absolutely over him and didn't want to deal with him thinking he could come back and all that..and I am good and so totally not needy..but I know what you mean..and thank you for giving me that one warning

GAL this week will be = working all day tomorrow and Thursday blah..and half day on Friday..to make up for being out Mon/Tues..LOL..

Tawnya

[pearlharbr]

T,

I know you're not needy, that's just how asking makes you look. Gives the impression that H is in control because you're saying "If you say X then I will do Y. But if you say A then I will do B." Best to know what you want and just do it, regardless of how H feels or what H wants.

Working does not count as GAL young lady! I expect you to put at least one fun activity on your calendar this week! Can you go to lunch with a friend? Or out for happy hour on Friday? Or make plans to see a movie this weekend?

[Tawnya]

I will have to see what I can do cause right now GAL'ing means going to put my double their size ankles up and watch my TV shows I missed over the weekend LOL

Tawnya

[pearlharbr]

Ok, I'll give you a pass for today, but there's still Friday, Saturday, and Sunday!

[Tawnya]

I wanna find something to do..hopefully I will..LOLOL

Tawnya

[pearlharbr]

Uh oh, looks like I'm in the same boat. I thought my friend was coming to stay this weekend but turns out she gave me the wrong dates and it's next weekend. So now I've got no plans Thur-Sun. Better get my act together! Will probably go to the movies on Friday (easier to avoid crowds and get the matinee prices) but at a loss for the weekend. It'll have to be something free or cheap since I spent all my extra money last weekend!

[cz946]

Hi All, I am struggling this week.
XW finally confirmed my assumption. XW and OM are seriously dating. XW is also taking d5 around OM. I still think its to early. She still tells d5 that OM is just a friend. Last few times I pick d5 up, she always talks about time spent with XW, OM and his d. This kills me!

I told XW my opinion and she says she respects it but disagrees.I just don't think its going to last. OM is 14 years older than XW and is basically being a sugar daddy.
We got into deep relationship talk and XW told me there will never be a chance to reconcil and I need to let go and move on.

I seriously think she wishes I would find someone to date, and we could be good friends. She tells me, and I can tell she misses the friendship, just doesn't want me to expect more.

I truelly need to detach, but to be honest I have been very poor at doing so with my numerous attempts so far.

I just find myself getting lonelyb and depressed.

Any suggestions on getting over the hump???

[pearlharbr]

CZ, what have you been doing to detach? What are your GAL activities?

Many of us here have had success going dark to whatever degree you can with your D5. Meaning no contact other than necessary info relating to D5, finances, etc. No chit chat or anything extra.

Then you focus on yourself by doing what you love. Is there somehting you've always wanted to learn? Are you working out? Exercise is good for the body and mind. Are you spending time with friends who you can laugh with? What about a hobby you gave up a while ago or one you're interested in starting? What are you doing with D5 for fun?

The key is to work on yourself. Become the best person you can be. While you're focus is on you it cannot be on your XW at the same time.

[JDOllie]

Well, day four! Woot woot - just talked to W about D8.

[Tawnya]

Pearl..ugh..hate your plans fell thru but let me know what you figure out to do. I need to do something with S12 this weekend, as he was stuck home while his dad had to work last weekend and I've had to work since I got back..so need to find something fun for he and I to do...have to think on that one...

Tawnya