I've not had a visit from OW (yet). However, I did pay a visit to the first OW that I ever found out about. It was something I needed to do at the time but then suffered with living nightmares for weeks afterwards. Everywhere I looked she was there: in the bed between us in the passenger seat in my car sitting on the end of my desk at work.
The thing that finally cleared the vision from my mind was when H and I went to play badminton. I pretended the shuttlecock was her head and really laid into it every time it was my shot. For the only time in my life I gave H a whooping at badminton He couldn't understand where I got the strenght and energy from. He was pretty shocked when I told him what had happened!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15