i have been told by people that i know who have walked away (be it mlc or just by plain choice) that facing that alone (the fact that THEY chose to leave -- not what they left but that they actually did it) it a bottom that we can't even imagine.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
i have been told by people that i know who have walked away (be it mlc or just by plain choice) that facing that alone (the fact that THEY chose to leave -- not what they left but that they actually did it) it a bottom that we can't even imagine.
When? When does it happen? What made them realize it? I can't even imagine that ever happening with my xH. He and his bimbOW are just too blissfully happy.
I don't want his realization to be to late for my xH, for my children, for my family....but I'm afraid now that it will be.
I'm moving forward, moving on, getting stronger, and it almost makes me feel guilty that I may NOT be "Standing" anymore by the time xH realizes what he's thrown away. <sigh>
Anyone else facing that?
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
yep....I know these feelings...they are really new to me and for so long I stood on my beliefs that divorce is wrong and while I still believe that....I feel like such a fool and a doormat...I am not going to act on these feelings though but been through hell with my h...bomb feb 2005....i cant even believe that was 4 years ago...i know i dont want to be here 4 years from now...and his meaness has just been unbelievable....I cant even beleive all the feelings I have been having.....I wish I could be were I am now and get the bomb..I feel so used.like they are probably laughing at what an idiot we are...oh well ....
remember grace- its not about us -- really it isn't.
and tp -- it tooks years --- and some of the people they left never knew. the person i am thinking of is very close to me. she has shared things with me... she doesn't think my x will be able to handle it...
we just have to let them go - build our own lives...
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Absolutely, i think of that often. Sometimes I wonder if I am just waiting for my ex to ask to come back in order for me to say "NO".
In my dreams this is what happens. After I say "NO", I am then able to move on with my life.
It all scares me.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
