FLTC, I'm not gonna pretend I've been in your position because I haven't. But I do know how hard it was to get through the negotiation process with a spouse who was actually on the same page as me, you unfortunately do not have that. We both kept in mind that the kids came first. I also know that in all liklihood it would be better for me if I never had to talk to the woman again. Sure, I could say "we discuss children and finances and that's it" but I also know that it's best for my kids to see two people working together as best they can and trying to be adults. My kids beam when they have dinner with mom and dad, when we celebrate special occassions TOGETHER. That means something to them. Yup, it's damn harder for me but I'm willing to do it, for them. I cringe when I read you saying you don't think you'll ever be able to speak to this woman again. Well, you have to because you have children to raise together. Feel your anger, vent your pain and stand up for what is fair but keep in mind you must do whatever you can to make decisions that will work for your kids, whatever those may be. Make good decisions FLTC, if you do right by this you will be a better man in the long run! She'll have to deal with her own conscience and, trust me, it will be better to be you than her in the long run! Take care...take deep breaths, you can do this!
