Sounds like we have a lot in common - situation, WAW and approach.

You should look at my threads - there is a lot of good advice there.

The short summary is, why should you be the one to move out? If she does move out, don't let her take the kids is the advice I've been given. My situation is a little trickier as she had filed for divorce on 1/9/09.

Best of luck

Me 41
WAW 36
S 3&7
M 10 yrs
W files D 1/9/09
W moves out 4/18
Lost job 6/15
New job 7/27
Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!)
Confronted 8/11
Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11
Lost Job 11/13