Ok so last night on 3/10/09 my wife told me that for our entire relationship she has chosen my needs over her own needs. As of a year ago she decided to choose her own needs over my needs. She went on to say that in all decision making in our relationship she would always think to herself, how will he react to this decision or what will his opinion be about this decision, when she feels that she should not have thought that way or made decisions in that way.
She also told me that in separating from me she wants to work on herself by thinking about why she made decions is this matter. She also wants to figure out why she put up with a toxic relationship/marrieage that was unhealthy for her for so many years. She said the marriage was so unhealthy she needs to remove herself from it.
She told me that right in this moment because the marriage was so unhealthy she can't even and won't even consider taking one last try with me. She says that it always felt to her that i had an altierier motive when I did something and that I would never just do something without expecting something in return. Given that she feels that way, she says that the she is unsure of wether the huge changes she currently sees in me are for real, or is there just an ajenda to get her to not end our marriage, but she would like for those changes to be real but she is unsure wether those changes will remain in me forever.
She also said that in the last year that we had been going to counseling that she felt that there was improvemnet in our relationship, but despite the improvement she said I would still be horrible at times. And given the fact that things were better than they had been in a really long time why then would I still act that way. And because I did act that way during that time she just gave up inside and made the decision to just be done. And now she just doesn't feel anything for me any more despite the fact that it makes her sad that she sees the changes in me and believes that they won't go away, but its just to late because she is just done. She says she just can't flip a switch and begin to want to be with me because those feelings for me are just gone.
DOES THIS MEAN I SHOULD JUST GIVE UP ANY HOPE AND MOVE ON SOMEONE WITH EXPERIANCE PLEASE GIVE SOME INSIGHT!
