First post... looking for advice and where I'm at.

[sweet-1]

Thanks for the replies.
For more info, I'm 36, she just turned 40. We;ve been together for 13 years, married for four (college careers etc), her first amrriage ended when her husband had repeated affairs (in the military stationed abroad). Our son is 11 will be 12 in a month, and our daughter is 6. She's never acted like this before, or at least this level, and is absolutely adamant that it's over. But I see in her alot of turmoil etc. She says she never really gave me her heart (?), but it was her idea to have the second child, we told each other we love the other every day.

In 2006 her father bought her a registration for something called the "woman within training weekend" It's a division of the Mankind project, both are listed on cult websites. They went on a 48 hour weekend, with little or no sleep, repetitve chanting etc, then at the end they tell them you can only trsut intiated women, no one else. that's when the little arguments started. Her dad finally convinced me to do the male version (what a joke), I left it feeling abused and cheated.

Anyway we had a mediated trial separation that was supposed to end jan 31. her initial statement of claim was from Jan 27, and she tried to have my a friend of mine serve me. At present she has moved out (second time now) to a 1 bedroom appt almost an hour away, on her week she drives the kids to school etc, they sleep on a hide-a-bed. She turned down $1400/month to stay in the house, (she makes $18/hr and wants spousal support). I just know in my heart that this is the right thing to do (I still love her very much), and this whole divorce feels way too rushed, It can't be finalized until 1 year anyway.