Still here......

[Belle]

So, if my H ends the affair, and says he wants to work on our marriage, I need to do all those things???

I don't know if I was planning on him moving back in right away. That would be necessary if I was to have access to his phone at all times.

Here's a BIG problem. My H is in school right now. OW is in most of his classes. (Chiro school has a set schedule of classes until they get to electives). He WILL still see her everyday. At least for the next year. I just don't know how it's going to work with that. I mean, I can't tell him to quit school. He can stay away from her at school and not talk to her. But I can already see this as an issue. He isn't someone who won't say "Hi" to someone and completely block them out.

And a no contact letter?

He needs to write OW a letter and I need to make sure it gets to her??

Wow, pretty intense.

BTW Puppy, I saw your post to Vdad about your marriage and how you and your W are such good friends but are having problems with intimacy. I can relate from the other side in that my H and I get along so well (we hardly ever fought) and yet we have problems with intimacy (I am the LD spouse of our SSM). I would love to go to a sex therapist but I don't think there are any in the area where we live. I will pray that your wife changes her mind and decides she wants to go to a sex therapist or IC.

Sorry to be nosy....