I'm sorry to hear that you had such a rough day. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself, just be careful not to trample her while you are doing it. I heard my wife say just 2 weeks before we got back together (all on her own initiative, by the way) that she could never see me as her husband again. God worked a miracle in her heart. Don't believe everything your W says. Set a limit for yourself (e.g. her in an actual physical relationship w/OM) and say you will wait until that point is reached. Marriages are worth fighting and praying for. Don't feel so hopeless. I know that's hard to do--there were so many times that I felt completely hopeless, but a turn around is possible. Most importantly, pray earnestly for her.
