It sounds like you have a great attitude and the fact that you are determined to focus on your children is very admirable! I have learned that my kids (S18, D15) both appreciate the small things that we do together....talking about their day at school, watching a DVD together, going out for breakfast, cooking together, etc... You can connect with them by really taking the time to listen to what they have to say each day. If you give them your undivided attention a little bit each day it will go a long way. I have found this really works for me.
I am a new member and it sounds like my situation is similar to yours. We haven't told the kids yet....still sleeping in the same bed.....but he is emotionally detached (not physically) but I'm not! Your post is an inspiration to me that maybe I'll get there someday.
Hugs and good luck to you! Don't beat yourself up about the kids. They will come around once they see you making small steps in the right direction!
