Sounds like you had a great weekend and you are staying focused on the things you can control and letting the things you cannot go. Keep it up and you will make it through this rough time.
Keep making those great memories with you kids. They are what truely matters now.
Had a really rough 2 days. I feel really depressed. I'm working at trying to get out of it but I feel like I'm stuck in a mental loop and I can't get my mind to shut up.
I keep thinking that maybe I'm the crazy one and my W has it all together. For some reason I can't help but feel like I'm going to be miserable and she's going to be happy as a lark.
I know I need to get this cr@p out of my mind and keep myself in today but I'm having a really hard time doing that.
My W went to an al-anon meeting on Tues night and I put the kids to bed. When she got home she said it was really good. She said, "It was very enlightening." In one of our last MC sessions she had said, "I need to figure out why I pick the men I pick." That made me feel really good <sarcasm>.
I don't know why her opinion matters to me but it does and I need to get rid of that. Again, having a hard time doing what I know I need to do. She still looks at me like that old guy I was and has distorted the truth so much that now she thinks I'm an abuser.
Sometimes life really sucks.
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For some reason I can't help but feel like I'm going to be miserable and she's going to be happy as a lark.
You'll be as miserable as you WANT to be. You continue to give her power. You continue to enable her.
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In one of our last MC sessions she had said, "I need to figure out why I pick the men I pick."
I can answer her question. She picks enablers. And when she doesn't get her way she emotionally beats the sh!t out of them. She picks men that allow her to drink and take care of her while she does so.
As long as you still love her and still care, you will continue to circle the drain. Lovingly detach. Sitting in the middle of this is not going to make it better.
Only you can pull your a$$ out of this. What set this depression off? Change the dialogue in your head - you are the only one that has any influence over that.....
For some reason I can't help but feel like I'm going to be miserable and she's going to be happy as a lark.
You'll be as miserable as you WANT to be. You continue to give her power. You continue to enable her.
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In one of our last MC sessions she had said, "I need to figure out why I pick the men I pick."
I can answer her question. She picks enablers. And when she doesn't get her way she emotionally beats the sh!t out of them. She picks men that allow her to drink and take care of her while she does so.
As long as you still love her and still care, you will continue to circle the drain. Lovingly detach. Sitting in the middle of this is not going to make it better.
Only you can pull your a$$ out of this. What set this depression off? Change the dialogue in your head - you are the only one that has any influence over that.....
WT
or in other words...
stop being a pussy
I am unable to lovingly thump him with a 2x4 this morning..
I have to be a little more direct..
imagine that
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 03/11/0902:08 PM.
Hi Steady, I read a really good book last week that is helping me to focus on the present and blocking negative thoughts. The books is titled: The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle. Check it out!
