I remember you telling me you deal with issues in circles.. that's how you resolve it.
Looking at the past gets you nowhere. Hindsight is no where NEAR 20/20. All you can work on is the present. I was in disbelief as we reached the final settlement, went in front of the judge, dealt with the following weeks after the final decree.
I look at the present and see the positive. That what I feared is manageable and livable. .. that I get in my own way more than he gets in mine. That letting go of 'stuff', material, mental, emotional in relationship to him is the greatest gift I can give myself.
You can't heal him, that's his job. You can heal you.. and that starts with focusing on you. Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving in a very bad bad way. That is baggage you choose to carry or leave by the wayside.
Let the sun shine in.. it's okay. Being a martyr never made a sound relationship, being a bitch doesn't either. It's the same thing in different clothing. Hurt.. plain hurt..
