The weirdness of the tax system. My attorney told me to go ahead and sign for $3500/month in unallocated support. His accountant told me to get my taxable income to where it would be, that I could claim (no shi&!) 105 dependents! Apparently this is reported to the IRS, and then I have to explain it!
FLTC, the negotiation phase is often a hellish adventure, even when you and your STBX get along, not saying that you do ! I remember finally ironing out the details and my STBX met with her lawyer and signed off and then she phones me right afterwards and says she wants to make some changes! WTF. She told me what she wanted and they were no big deal so I phoned my lawyer and he said "Whatis you don't need me for these, you can just write those kind of changes up yourself, get witnesses and that's that" I said "just do it, so I can get rid of this woman!" So the day I signed off, I signed amendments too! Actually, it worked out well as my lawyer put in some stuff STBX didn't want like the schedule for having the kids. We had in there that both parties would split time with the kids 50/50 but no detailed schedule. He said he couldn't make an amendment to a schedule that does not yet exist in the Agreement. STBX wanted to have kids on Chinese New Year, as if I'd stop her! I said to him "Hey, I really like the way you stuck that schedule in on her" and he said "I'm your lawyer, not hers" She had been opposed to putting in the schedule basically because she's a control freak but my lawyer was saying it was best for me to have the schedule put in. Honestly, I was just tired of hassling with the woman over petty sh*t. It did all work out in the end, as will your sitch. Take care.
Although I don't want to give away the store, what is the price of peace and freedom? It gauls me that I have to pay ANYTHING but child support. I want an agreement that will have me having as LITTLE contact with this woman as possible.
If she knew I had 64 cents in the cup holder of my car, she would want 32 cents worth of it! She is THAT bad. I hate her. YES.....HATE her. I'm in one of those moods today where I don't want to hear about forgiveness or moving on. I'll be better tomorrow, but today is a day to vent and rage against the machine.
My attorney talked to her for about 2 minutes, came back to me, and called her the most vile name you can think of....Yep! That's the one!
I know you're all gonna beat me up, so have at it. I'll return to my "default setting" tomorrow!!!!
Vent away...sometimes, the anger gives us the strength we need to get through the thick of it. It won't stay within you forever (I hope!). But at some point, it will probably turn to almost-pity. What a life she is building for herself -its like watch a train wreck in slow motion.
When you're done being pissed off for the day, break out your gratitude journal and write an entry. Your life, on the other hand, is starting to look up, isn't it?
FLTC, I'm not gonna bash you! What you're seeing is someone who you once loved with all your heart doing things to you that make you hurt real bad. Sure you hate her but that only proves that you still have some love in there! She's ripped your heart out and now wants to cut out a lung or two. It sucks, hate away... at least for today. You will survive!
Thanks, guys. Another brick in the load. I agreed to pay for half of the kids unreimbursed medical costs in the "pendente lite" hearing. Yesterday, she executed a perfect ambush: a $2400 bill for S10s braces. I guess I can pay a dollar at a time. That's what I plan to do for the back support she requested AND GOT. Wii, I'm not sure there's even LIKE left in me for her. She is doing everything she can to ensure that I will never be able to speak to her again.
I may go to litigation here, and have her boss and his wife and some of the partners in Smarmy's law office deposed. WHEN WILL SHE FEEL ANY OF THE PAIN OF THIS DIVORCE. SHE WAS ABLE TO BUY MY SON A BRAND NEW SET OF DRUMS FOR HIS BIRTHDAY. I CAN'TT AFFORD THE CAKE!
! I remember finally ironing out the details and my STBX met with her lawyer and signed off and then she phones me right afterwards and says she wants to make some changes! WTF. She told me what she wanted and they were no big deal so I phoned my lawyer and he said "Whatis you don't need me for these, you can just write those kind of changes up yourself, get witnesses and that's that" I said "just do it, so I can get rid of this woman!" So the day I signed off, I signed amendments too! Actually, it worked out well as my lawyer put in some stuff STBX didn't want like the schedule for having the kids. We had in there that both parties would split time with the kids 50/50 but no detailed schedule. He said he couldn't make an amendment to a schedule that does not yet exist in the Agreement. STBX wanted to have kids on Chinese New Year, as if I'd stop her! I said to him "Hey, I really like the way you stuck that schedule in on her" and he said "I'm your lawyer, not hers" She had been opposed to putting in the schedule basically because she's a control freak but my lawyer was saying it was best for me to have the schedule put in. Honestly, I was just tired of hassling with the woman over petty sh*t. It did all work out in the end, as will your sitch. Take care.