Right now I feel like I am at a critical point in this DB process. My wife is really beginning to open up more and I don't want to screw up this opportunity by being overly excited and doing something stupid. Right I feel like she is beginning to really give thought to whether or not she wants to make it work and I think a part of her is still afraid while another part of her wants to believe.
Last night she called me at around 4 am in the morning and just wanted to talk. She kept calling me by my pet name and being playful with me on the phone. She then would make comments like "so, are you going leave me again." I responded by saying that I am never going to leave again - that family is first. I think right now she is looking for assurance that I am not going to leave this time around.
Today we were talking and she was like, "you know, you are going to have to propose again if we get back together" and other such comments. I love my family so much and it seems like I am getting closer to having my family restored. Yet, at the same time I want to take caution. I remember reading in one of the DB books that it is important to not show overly excitement when the other spouse begins to open up.
Later that night she was telling that she still doesn't know whether or not to believe me. I told her that had a lot of anger, daddy issues (grew up with no father), guilt, regret and other problems that I didn't know how to deal with at the time. But now I realize that the only thing that matters in this life is family. The rest of the evening went well.
So, at this point it seems like the game plan should be to stick with what's working and keep doing what I am doing without becoming suddenly needy or appear anxious to get back together. Any other advice is welcomed.
By the way, how do you like your new job FaithfulH. I hope things are going well for you. Breton39, I always remember what you say "actions not words" whenever I start to doubt - so thank you. I hope you are doing well also.
