Yes, you do need to protect yourself legally and financially. Just from what you wrote and her words and behavior....she is very much in the fog right now.....it will end eventually. Don't believe what she is saying at all. She doesn't deserve to have you wait for her while she does this, but if you can just focus on you and your family and wait and see....you may see her come around. I know you think that's impossible, but she will eventually come out of this "fog" and when she does, if you are still there, she will want to try again. Pray for her.
I've seen this time and time again. My friend's affair partner, the one that broke up her marriage and caused a divorce, just left her. Her ex H has moved on and met another woman. He said he doesn't want to "give it another go, and is moving in another direction now." My friend is only now dealing with the divorce and all she has given up. It is too late.
