She doesn't see anything wrong with having male friends even if I don't know about them.
Shirley Glass wrote a book of a similar title. My X also thought there was no harm in having secret male friends. But yet when I married her, she forbid me from ever keeping in touch with my previous girlfriend and made me burn all evidence that she existed. Go figure.
I hope you know that once it turns into an argument, all hope is lost for a meaningful talk. You are better served at expressing how you feel when she maintains contact with other men.
Lan, you have not discussed it much, but I get the impression that your W is the one in charge of when to have sex. Does she do it more as some sort of reward for you or when she wants something? Tool #4 of the bettermen tools (from Hold on to Your Nuts) is - Run the Sex and Romance Departments.
So I take it you are just acting as if you are not married to her anymore. What are your long term plans when you say you know where you are going? Do you foresee yourself dating or talking with other women?
