Well the talk didn't go too well there were some positives but, pretty much ended up as a shouting match, but it felt good to let off a bit of steam. W turned it into a "Lan is not getting sex and is paranoid about her male friendships" that why we are arguing. She doesn't see anything wrong with having male friends even if I don't know about them.
Overall we hit an impasse but I am now much clearer on how the long term future will shape up, definately won't be together but we won't be rushing to a D, may never D but I now know where I am going, knida feel a weight is lifted off me.