Changing yourself is done because you are trying to save your marriage.
if your here to change yourself to save your M..then IMO your are game playing..the changes won't last and you are doomed to fail..the only hope you have is lasting change..the changes have to become habit and second nature..
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It's possible in the process to find out that you have no marriage.
I think you figure that out before you ever get here..
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It's possible to find out that you won't come back from the detachment.
LOL...detachment IMO has nothing to do with you not coming back..detachment is all about unconditional love... letting go enough to know that no matter what happens you'll be ok...letting go enough to let them get there chitt straight and you not spin in the process..
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I view GAL process as a run-up to that moment.
and that's why the WAS can detect that you are not sincere in your changes....
So save your M, then just stop what you were doing and go back to what you were...
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But I view that moment as a last resort before insanity sets in.
the insanity began when the WAS started walking away...
Ahh..it is what it is...
I understand a Newbies apprehension...I was the same way...it took me a while to get it..now I do and I'm the better for it..
