I am sorry, I have to agree. 3 Years is a long time to not have contact and then expect to have a say in what he does. You could make one last attempt to clarify whatever issues you had and see if he is willing to do anything about it but he seems fine the way things are.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory