Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[hopefulinEG]

Things have actually been good the last few days in the house. I have been able to keep my cool a lot better around her and be happy and friendly. We do spend little time together but when we do she initiates conversation and actually asks me abut my day. The couple times she has been excessivly snippy she actually apologized.

I think she is really trying to get along so I will keep letting her live there because she knows she can't afford to move out. I also found out that the relationship with the OW is actually pretty rocky so maybe she is also trying to hedge her bets.

I have been thinking a lot about what I would/will do if she wakes up from her fantasy world and wants to come back to the marriage. In my heart I really do want to stay married to her and I know that many people have survived infidelity (including my own parents). I think I would tell her that I will go to counceling with her and see where it goes as long as she cuts off all contact with OW outside of seeing her at DD's school when she absolutley must. I would need for her to really come clean and know why this happened so it would never happen again but even then I can't say for sure how it would turn out.

Going through this process has changed me a lot too. I realized I am much stronger than I ever thought possible.