Pooh, I agree, postpone the divorce. You can also have the L do a S agreement in which he has to pay child support. There is nothing wrong with postponing it and then DB you butt off. Not DBing the way you've been doing but doing NC, going dark, detaching, etc. I am almost certain that if you go through with the D, nothing will change between you and your H. Your H is right, Friday is just another day. You and your H both have not detached as yet to know if you truly want to D. Nothing wrong with "postponing" it until you are truly ready. Have you lawyer give a good excuse for postponing it. I don't think your H is ready either. Neither do I think he's ready to be seriously married, but he hasn't been pushed as yet.
And you don't have to discuss this with your H and express your feelings to him. You just do it. But again, only stop the D if you're ready to act different with your H. Actually, even if you go ahead with the D, I'm almost certain that you and your H will be doing the same things. Do something different now!
