In the end, she said "just go withdraw your money, I don't know why your acting this way." I said okay, goodbye.
Why YOU'RE acting this way?!?!?!?! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!
I think you know what's going on here T. Why does she care WHEN or even IF you withdraw it?
Don't get bent out of shape about her trying to take the stuff that she said she wouldn't. I really don't think that she wants it. It seems to be part of the lawyer game- ask for way more than you want, so that you wind up getting what you think you need. The outrageous valuations say to me that it's yet another tactic from her to buy even more time to drag this out.
Why would she want to drag it out? Why not just get on with it, or drop the D?
"Who the hell knows......"
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
Yeah it is a tatic being used by her lawyer. I don't really think it is to stall anything. I think it is more of him trying to get her what ever he can. He knows there is no equity in the house, and that she will most likely be paying support, so the only thing left for her to go after are possesions.
It's all part of the D game. It sucks too because the further along you go, the more twisted her justification gets.
I hope everything is ok with you. Drop me a line and let me know whats up.
Hiya T - Not too much that's exciting going on with me right now- overloaded at work (I'm avoiding as I type to you- can you tell? ), trying to get my bills and taxes under control at home, need to clean up the house BADLY, etc, etc, etc.
I'm meeting my W at the Starbuck's near where she works tomorrow. It's under the guise of "discussing the taxes" that she actually couldn't be concerned less with because she has already said that she's filing married separately. Either she thinks I need her help, or it's an excuse to see me. Probably the former. Doesn't she realize that's what our tax man is for? I'm really NOT into a D discussion at this stage. Why talk about it if there's nothing I can say or do to change her mind? She just wants to explain her side and get out from under the guilt she's feeling, I'm sure. And she thinks that's going to work for her because?...........
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
The very first thing they teach you in law school is always overshoot and leave room for negotiation.
second thing they teach you, the first offer is never what is the end result.
Third thing, you bill by the hour so the more times you have to redraft the paperwork the more you bring in.
One thing I am going to warn you about here trapt is that you must try as hard as you can to not associate your wives lawyers actions as hers. Reality is her lawyer drafted the papers and she signed them because he told her exactly what I just told you. Your lawyer will do the same when you list your assets and their value. Those numbers will change drastically before your wife see them.
My advice, keep it simple. Take each line item and put either a yes, or a no. You either agree or you do not. Do not come up with counter offers, just simple yes or no. Have your lawyer simply send it back that way. Trapt agrees to #'s 1,2,3, etc... trapt does not agree to #'s 5, 7, 8, etc...... That's it plain and simple. Do not have your lawyer redraft with changes, that costs you hourly rates. Let her lawyer do the legwork and she can pay for it. Yes or no... thats it.
Oh, one more thing. Get your fricken tax money out of that account now..... are you kidding me. You trust her right now, really??????
Oh, one more thing. Get your fricken tax money out of that account now..... are you kidding me. You trust her right now, really??????Ian
LOL!
I got this morning after our conversation. That is one thing I think she knows not to do.
I figured they would be shooting really high at first.
I will admit that I was short with her this morning. I should have handle it better, but I did let it upset me. It was just so ridiculous. I do understand the what fors and whys behind it.
You make some excellent points here my man, this is great advice. I will remember the yes & no answers.
I obviously don't have to tell you how much this sucks.I hate having the woman I love going after me.
I was talking with my daughter today, she brought back some really awesome memories of all of us as a family. It was really nice but sad at the same time. I couldn't believe how many memories I had not forgotten but had lost in all of this mess. It was a beautiful bright spot in this sometimes dark journey.
This is exactly what I am talking about dude. She isn't going after you, her lawyer is. She is looking for a means to an end. In her mind (which is what it is) her ideal is to get the divorce done. For her this is about getting it done, not going after you.
No, I am not defending her. Merely pointing out the reality of her process. Trust me, if she was going "after you" things would be much tougher. You read FIBs thread right?????
), trying to get my bills and taxes under control at home, need to clean up the house BADLY, etc, etc, etc.