Thanks for your support. If we make it through this, you are right about forgiveness. One of his issues was that years back....while I was pregnant with my daughter, I suspected that he was having an EA or PA with an old friend of his. Phone records indicated that they spoke ALL the time. I was devastated then. He denied, so I am uncertain but pretty sure they had a relationship. Then about 10 years ago, while we were building our house, I suspected that he had some type of relationship with a mutual friend of ours. Again...not sure but felt it in my gut. So when I confronted H about this current situation last month, I brought up those other 2 sitchs and he said he couldn't believe that I still thought he had affairs, and that they were just friends, blah blah blah. Then he accused me of being like my mom and holding a grudge forever. Over the years, believe me, it took all of my *forgiving* skills to put those incidents out of my mind. I really did and never thought this kind of thing would happen again.
How stupid I was! Anyway, can't take back what I said, and in my heart I think I am correct in my assumptions. So this is where our number two issue is from his point of view, he says that *TRUST* is an issue. I can honestly say it never would have been again if he hadn't radically changed his behavior over the last few months.
In any case Spellfire, thanks for your kind words. I hope you are enjoying this beautiful day. Abby
