I believe in your point on the Grace/Will of God is the ONLY thing that will turn things around.
Pup I have always loved the "melty man" example. It is so accurate. I have done it a bit over the past couple months.. It's hard not to sometimes.
As we are currently separated it's tough to get the opportunities for acts of kindness as you just don't have the same contact as before. They do come from time to time, just far less frequently. I have encouraged her to call me if she just needs someone to talk to.. I doubt she will at this point but that could be a sign for the future that things are changing slightly if she does. I guess the best I can do at this point is to be patient and turn myself over to God along with her and the kids, heck everything.
For the first time in my life I have surrounded myself with godly men who will help with accountability. This is a big 180 for me. I can feel myself getting stronger, moving my dependance on her to him. Yes we were very co-dependant.
Wow, this is so hard and so long term. Very difficult to stay focused on fighting for this when she is running the other direction. My respect level for those who have done this successfully has skyrocketed.
What an amazing group of DB vets we have here. I am so appreciative of those who stick around and continue to give.
Pup...How are things going. I get a sense of frustration from you. How are you and the W tracking? You have been there for me so much.. I was hoping that you are getting to where you are hoping to be with your W?
V
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
