In my head, and looking at this as a woman and not as your friend, she needs to see a determined Lan. Set boundaries, make consequences known and be ready to enforce them. Difficult I know. Have that talk and see where it leads you.
I told W we need to have this talk tonight, I have got a good idea of what I need to say even if she clams up. Talk calmly with no anger and have a fair and frank exchange. However her mood has already has changed from this morning so it's gonna be a tough one.
