Continue to love your wife. Find ways to show her love without being lovey. In other words, don't buy gifts, try to go out on dates, or call her honey, but be there for her, listen to her, do small things that she would recognize as your love for her.
I tried to do this as well; I call them simple "acts of kindness" or "acts of love." I'd do things like pull my wife's car in the garage for her at night (she hates going out there when it's cold, dark and spooky!), or cover her with a blanket when she'd fall asleep on the couch (and I would gently kiss her forehead). Clean the cats' litter boxes (normally her job, and she HATES it, naturally). Stuff like that. But no flowers, candy, gifts, "ILYs" or anything else that is needy, grabby, pursuing or "melty man."
