If you are planning on saving your M, even if he is having an A, then I would expose it anonymously, so as not to have yet another strike against you when you are trying to reconcile. But that's just me, I'm trying to get out of my B****y ways, so I wouldn't do it openly.
M:28 H:30 DD-9| DD-7| Baby- Due 11/10 T-14 | M-8
10/08- Bomb 4/09- Failed attempt at Marriage Fitness Program 3/10- WH moved out. 7/10- Informed me he's filing in Aug