advice needed to keep my cool

[kissak]

Hard question: have you really done the "get a life" DB program. In other words are you the stong, fun, independent, sexy, beautiful, mysterious woman who doesn't need you husband to be happy, yet is irresistible and fun to be with? Have you shown him by your actions and life that if you move on he'll be the one to lose out?

I know what I'm saying is harsh, but that's what divorce-busting is all about. It's not easy. And most of us here can't seem to do it, (me included). Chances are you are the same person you were when this all started. And you know what?....that's the person he's not attracted to. It's all about attraction. Can you attract him back? Yes or No?

Thanks Theo for your post. I have been getting a life. He knows that I have. Thats when he usually starts poking around again in my life. HE gets curious about me and what I am doing. THen sucks me back in. But I have learned alot over the past 2 years, and not Im not the same person I was back then. Even he has said that. He knows if I move on he will be the one missing out, thats why he keeps wanting to come back. Even now, the "possible gf" she was just that...a fun time. It lasted all of a weekend. I have set the boundaries and given him the ultimatums. I have told him he cannot come back anymore and do this I wont allow it and he promised me he wouldnt. Of course, he is already breaking his promise. I however am staying strong and focused this time around. I wont get sucked back in. I deserve far more respect than what i have been getting.