Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

My S17 spoke with her for about 10 minutes today. She had a terrible migraine and was lying down when he called. My MIL was over at her apartment taking care of her, so he talked to her for about 10 minutes. He told me that she sounded bad (in pain; both physically and emotionally).

She called again last night. It was 2:00am here and the phone woke me out of my sleep. I noticed on the caller ID that is was "Out of Area" so I knew it was her calling. When I picked up and said hello, she hung up. I thought for about 30s before I decided to call her back. Maybe that was a mistake? Maybe I should have let it go as part of my detachment? I guess the point is moot. All the scenarios of why she would be calling so late were playing through my head.

She answered and I asked her if everything was ok. She said it was and that she was sorry to have called so late. I asked if there was something she needed and she said no, so I asked if her migraine was better and she said that she was feeling better. Without anything else to say, I told her to have a nice day and we said goodbye and hung up.

I do worry about her still, but not to the crippling, obsessing extent that I used to. Thus far, she has called every day since she left last Monday. I think those are good signs because before she came back to visit it would be 2 or 3 weeks between calls to me.