It's Not Like on T.V.

[confusedinpa]

I don't mind hijacking; we're all in this together. Sometimes the best stuff you see is stuff that has nothing to do with "your" thread.

But on "my" thread, I pose the following quandry:

She has declared "it's over." No more MC. No more delaying tactics. Moving ahead.

What is my move? Do I calmly and quietly tell her to leave the house? I don't want to live with my wife who is dating.

DrHemlock,

I have the same thing come up in my situation as well - although as far as I know there isn't anyone else (I hope there isn't). Over the weekend she told me flat out that she can't see the relationship ever working. She felt that my changes were more to be who I thought she wanted me to be and I was just following tips/direction from all the books I've been reading. She also said that if I don't start thinking about the custody agreement and how to move forward with the separation, she will just move out. She felt that I hadn't changed as I was still ignoring what she wants and feels like I'm disrespecting her.

This was over the weekend (started the conversation Sat morning and finished it Sun evening - kids kept interrupting). This was right after we were intimate on Thursday evening for the second week in a row.

We went to counseling last nite as well. She said similar things that she doesn't feel like the relationship will ever work.

Very confusing.

You can read about all the details in my thread if you have a chance. I have a call with my db coach this afternoon. I'll post her input after I talk to her.