Thanks Amy...
It is hard because OW not completely confirmed but I am pretty sure. How can I compete against a younger woman (41...I am 44) that is better educated (masters) an endurance athlete (god!) and has never had children? My husband turned 50 last May. I really didn't see a change in him until the end of November or so. In fact I came back from my yearly mom's retreat with some girlfriends and he was so happy to see me and said the house felt so much more "homey" when I was there. A few weeks ago he mentioned that even when I was away on that trip and came back after 4 days by not initiating sex, that signaled to him that I just wasn't interested. That comment blew me away and now I feel so guilty but can't go back in time.

I am glad to hear that working on yourself made you feel better and that is definitely what I have been trying to do. Going to the gym, lost 25 lbs, younger clothes, etc.... and it does help ME feel better.