JB Have you read Divorce Remedy or Divorce Busting? You have to Act as if. Act As If you know that she is going to say yes. She is going to say "What a great idea!" I would approach it with "Look, I think the kids could benefit seeing us together as a family. It's been hard on them and I think we both want to put them first, actually I know we do. So how about we try a family night? We'll go to dinner and maybe some ice cream. We won't talk about anything except them. We'll make them the focus. We'll ask them a million questions--make them the center of our attention like they deserve. If you are ok with this and I'm ok with this and this first family night is a success we'll try another one, maybe roller skating or bowling or a movie, whatever. But this is for them, not for us to talk about semantics or the divorce. This is for talking about and to them about them, only." Go for her guts JB. Also make it clear, you are already going to do this, with or without her. Even if she says NO, family night is still going to happen. My gut tells me, she'll change her mind when she sees how much fun you and your kids are having. Do it JB.
I read Divorce Remedy which I understand is just the updated version of DB. So Act As If. And move forward. I think you should really concentrate on the kids. The only question you should be asking them in regards to the wife is "Is she ok?" And NOTHING else. You don't need that getting back to her. So when are you going to ask about Family Night?
Stilloveshim , I really appreciate your advice . I truely believe in my heart she is done . She's said all the things that you say when its' over and I've said all the things you say when you want it back .
Look JB. You can do this, but you have to start somewhere. Send her the email--or better yet, call her, get the family night going. If she won't go ask for another night with the kids and go with you and them only. She will come, if not the first time, she'll be there eventually. You have to take this first step.
Because the kids will be there. They will be there as the buffer between the two of you. And really now they are the only thing your wife thinks the two of you have in common. A family night really will be a good thing for your family. It will have a positive impact on the kids and hopefully her too.
