I don't mean to be disrespectful and so I hope you will take my comment in the right way. I think Yoyo has gone beyond trying to get a reaction from her H and trying to reconcile. I think she is heading down the D road and going for her fair share.
I also agree that she has NO REASON at all to apologise to her virtual friends, and I for one would love it if she came over to England for a visit. You are welcome to stay any time Yoyo.
DB does not save all marriages.....some would say it doesn't save many. What I think it often does do though is give the left behind spouse the tools and courage to deal with what they have to, and everyone gets there in their own time. I have no doubt that Yoyo will find her Mojo and that there will be a queue of suitors waiting.
I also believe that if she goes forward and moves down the D route her H will try to reconcile again because he doesn't want to lose out financially. He has shown time and time again he does not care truly for either Yoyo or his D's.....all he cares about is himself, his wallet and his public persona; he has proven over and over that he cannot be trusted.
Yoyo, protect yourself and don't be sucked in again by him. Harness that anger and use it constructively.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
