I think you should prepare for exposure of the affair to the OW's husband. Remember that many times an affair thrives on the secrecy, the thrill of not getting caught, the thrill of the unknown... etc. etc....
I have seen many a man come to their senses quickly when their affair is exposed to the light of day......
The longer it goes on the LESS chance you have of saving your own relationship... Get the facts and all of the proof of the affair and then get ready to tell the OW's husband. Do not reveal this plan to your WS....
