Please be careful about grouping me in with Puppy. I speak for myself and my views don't always agree with Puppy. You have assumed wrongly that I think she should snoop or catch him in a lie, etc.
There is a difference in your situation than in Pearl's. Her exbf WANTS to get back together. Huge difference. The whole premise of this site is in saving a relationship on the brink. She now has that chance. (HER choice)
Believe it or not, this relationship now CAN be saved if Pearl chooses and handles herself properly and knows how and when to believe he has "now seen the light and will never let this happen again."
He is still testing her to a degree. She keeps passing the tests brilliantly. However, I do agree what we do now know more of what is going on. (he IS still with the OW) We basically already knew that, but we needed to hear it from his own mouth.
Pearl, I do believe that you should not respond to his latest email. He beat around the bush. (which is the same thing that he seems to have done throughout your relationship) That would not be enough for me.
He needs to contact you again. He needs to wonder why you have not responded. When he does try again, is when you can hit him with some more ammunition of why and what you "have decided" (which will point back to this latest email we are discussing.)
He probably isn't going to give up even if you tell him to leave you alone. From my experience and observations on this site of people getting rejected it seems to be quite the opposite. Most people giving advice on here actually tell the one rejected to not believe a word they say and only half what they see. He could be getting that type of advice from others huh?
