I am sorry your parents were not supportive of you. I'm sure that is very hard to take. All the fault-finding that people do is so unproductive. We don't win every battle. Sometimes we have to accept defeat and move on. I, for one, do not find fault with you and the ways that you have tried to make your marriage work. You were tenacious throughout. Why did you go to him last night? Because you are obsessive with this. It is not healthy for you to keep waging a losing war. You describe him as cold and cruel. That is not a weak person. He was very strong all the time rejecting every thing that you asked for, hiding and lying about OW to the end. No, he is not weak. He paints a picture of himself as weak and fearful of rejection. That is what he wants to project, it is not him. He is hard and resolute. You must accept that he does not want you. That is a bitter pill to swallow. But it is better to accept it and move on, than to keep trying to break down doors that are barred against you.
