I don't know your whole story. But it sounds like the affair is over, but the repair work hasn't happened, and you two are in a holding pattern. Have you suggested that a Retrouvaille weekend might help you reconnect with each other? The website is http://www.helpourmarriage.org. Both Puppy and WDID (I call her Didi) have gone. It is a wonderful way of taking a peek behind the walls that get built up over time.
