oh, and in my book, there is always hope. But, again, you need to move past your strong hold. You do better some days, but you need to be thinking in your mind that it is over. done. and it is.... I remember truly thinking that there was no way my H was coming back unless he got saved. I knew in my mind that I loved him, and that I would take him back, but I also knew God had someone for me, and I had no idea who it would be, but I knew my future had great hope because of what I had learned thru my sitch. Because we have learned, and only if we have learned, will our futures be greater. I know you have learned, but your still trying to keep yourself stuck. You can take that step, just have faith that God is going to provide you that husband and father that your family needs. (I would love for it to be H, but you have to move on like it won't be) I know it's weird to think this way, but it's really what being detached is about. Your detached enough from the R and the sitch that you would love for your H to come around, but you are okay if he doesnt, and you are going to have a great life with or without him, and you are okay with that.

I'm thinking, on your texts to him, your trying to make them too personal so that he will text back. for instance, you only needed to say, "fyi, daycare is due friday" and you could put thanks on there as well, as that is a nice thing to say, but when you add "goodnight", it is like you are asking for his response. and that in turn makes me think your hoping for one. Try not to do things where you'll be hoping for a response, because he will most likely disappoint you.

oh, and also, you really have to stop looking at his FB. The more you look, the more you will start thinking about the sitch, and that is the opposite of what you want.

you know what you should and shouldn't do. ;\)


Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."