and I think that they are all ON-TARGET ones, too.
This was (and is!) a very hard realization for me to come to, that I cannot be responsible for my wife's happiness, and she cannot be responsible for mine. We have to learn to basically be happy in our own skin, and then WANT the other person, but not NEED them in order to be whole.
And no, I don't think he has any CLUE of that yet. He is way fogged out on affair chemicals runnin' around his wayward little brain.
