If your wife did file at the courts, it is a matter of public record. There are D lawyers looking for work who check all the records to get clients.
That means she did file, and you will need a lawyer to respond.
This is the time to hang tough, rant and rave on this site and to whoever will listen. Get it out, so you can be reasonable and rational when needed.
Remember, she did meet with the lawyer who is probably just getting around to filing - that's all. She has had one month of change to reconsider and it will still be coming - right? Take a deep breath, take a walk, see a movie, take your girls to the park and breath again.
