I posted earlier.. but I guess it is lost forever.
So glad the theme did not change.
"He said no and said he couldn't remember all the incidents I mentioned."
So what is he really saying here?
"I said we could go out together... No answer."
Imagine that.
"We talked about money, lawyer expenses, vacation time everything. I was emotional but didn't collapse or anything. He is back to the man he was a year ago. Cold, distant and cruel."
He would say the same thing about you. Cause we have been walking this way for a looong time. It just proves the point.. when we don't go at it.. 100% (Read=Choices) We set ourselves up to fail. The key lies in the words of SC (The long lost Mod) "True Giving". Or in the random redneck poster.. "Do Work".
"He doubted I was in a better state when he came back and although tempted I didnt tell him I was happy back then."
So.. what you are saying is.. you can "see" where he thought.. you were better?
The "goal".. in the scheme of things.. does not really matter.
To me if the "goal" is to win them back.. "hide" that. Do everything that would not allow them to see the goal. On the flip side of that.. you have to be ready to go at it when your "goal" shows up. In making a choice and sticking to it.. you fight the hard battle. You get "labeled".
"I didn't tell him I was happy back then because although details would serve him good"
The reason you were happy.. has little to nothing to with your "goal". The idea is.. he could "see" the happy. And found it "attractive". So much so.. he wanted you "back".
"He seems to be eclipsed by your sunshine because he is weak and spineless."
He is not spineless. He just does not understand.. just like you.
"You have been in this place before unfortunately."
I said this in my "lost post".
"Then let this man go, as you have done once before."
I agree with this.. to a point. I can hear the words.. "Slow Down".
"You reached a place once before where you had dealt with the loss, found your strength again, and, most blessedly of all, learned that there is still the capacity for love in your life."
Yet the "goal" (choice) was not clear.
"Find that place again K."
This I can agree with.
"This man merits no more of your time, grace, or concern."
I am gonna fight Bill some here.
He deserves the best of you.. staying or going.
From my other post.. the long lost one. The only "mistake" you have made.. is showing the "goal" You let it effect YOU. While I understand why.. I want you to do better.
However I got "here".. I am here.. and somewhat vested in you. So that leaves me with the question...
What do you want?
Just based on what I know about you.. just make a choice. I will use my DQ to defend you. Don't tell me what obstacles are in your way. Just make a choice.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
