Originally Posted By: gucci loafer Can you imagine if you were still hanging in there and hoping that by being nice and sweet to him would turn him around and where you would be?
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If there are any lurkers here who don't know my whole story, I was trying the whole "be friend-ly and ride it out" approach to the A but it was tearing me up inside because I felt like I was destroying my own self-respect. Suddenly a switch flipped and I knew I couldn't take it for one more minute. I can't tell you how much better I felt about myself for taking a stand and taking responsibility for my own happiness. Kicking him out may not have been strict DB practice, but it certainly follows the idea of realizing you can only control your own actions.
So that's a really long winded way of saying no, I can't imagine still doing that!
I tried the whole "nice" approach too for a year after finding out about Catbitch. My switch flipped one day as well and I've never looked back. Thanks for stating this so well.
It will be interesting to see your xBF's response.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
