Feel the pain, mourn the loss, accept that there are no answers to the questions that burn in your mind.
Then let this man go, as you have done once before.
You reached a place once before where you had dealt with the loss, found your strength again, and, most blessedly of all, learned that there is still the capacity for love in your life.
Find that place again K.
This man merits no more of your time, grace, or concern. Truth is that he sounds much like Debra's ex husband was when he did much what your husband has done. There is never an excuse for allowing a person who once took your place to still have a place in his life. To proclaim her his friend and to chastise you for coming between them just shows how incredibly far from you he has always been.
Find your life again. As you know, it is scary at first. But it is also potentially exciting and full.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
