Yeah...the OW showed up....have no real idea why...her insecurity???
Probably.
I am so done with that...and I did not appreciate it.
It was weird to have her in MY house...strange...I am ready for all of this drama to be over...I want it so OVER.
sigh...it was not a visit that was much different from what other folks have gotten from the OP...why was I not really THAT shocked by a visit???? I swear these people just want to keep us in THEIR drama...and I just don't have time for that anymore...
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
I've not had a visit from OW (yet). However, I did pay a visit to the first OW that I ever found out about. It was something I needed to do at the time but then suffered with living nightmares for weeks afterwards. Everywhere I looked she was there: in the bed between us in the passenger seat in my car sitting on the end of my desk at work.
The thing that finally cleared the vision from my mind was when H and I went to play badminton. I pretended the shuttlecock was her head and really laid into it every time it was my shot. For the only time in my life I gave H a whooping at badminton He couldn't understand where I got the strenght and energy from. He was pretty shocked when I told him what had happened!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Alison, that is really good therapy...you need to get it out and over with and move on...no sense in holding it in...it does more harm...trust me, I know...
I wish you happiness and peace, whatever happens...remember, when God closes one door, somewhere he opens a window...and what MAY seem inconceivably sad, may, in retrospect, be the thing that sets you free...
Hugs, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Well sweets, you are an inspiration for me...life goes on...I think we need to remember that...despite what it is that WE want, sometimes God has other plans and we cannot ask questions...
"Be still and know that I am God" Psalms 43:10
Honey, your life is gonna be so great...u will look back and laugh...as we all will...
Hugs, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Seems like this weekend at my cousin's fab wedding I was getting ALL kinds of unsolicited advice...and it was annoying! I loved the one person that told me: Vali, I heard that you should not date for an entire year after your divorce because it is like you are mourning the death of someone.REALLY? YA THINK?I was thinking to myself, look chick, he's been gone for over 2.5 years...for over 2 years I did not go out...I just hung out at my house and waited for him patiently (and not so patiently) and now that I am moving on you're thinking it is a good thing for me to WAIT some more??????
ARE U KIDDING ME??????? All this from a person who has NEVER been divorced. Easy for her to say. So I just smiled and said thanks, but I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do...
Hell, it isn't like I am dating anyone anyway...for Pete's sake!
I swear, some people are just bossy...
Anyhoo, today is St. Paddy's day and I am going to a pub and drink something green!
Hugs to all, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
He couldn't understand where I got the strenght and energy from. He was pretty shocked when I told him what had happened!