I've been pretty much NC with her ever since. As much as I can be at least, considering. Since then, the next week, she referred a client to me, left me a VM, has been reminding the girls to call me at night, called me last week to vent about S15 and his dad, HER ex called me to vent about the situation(I didn't take his call), emailed me about Spring Break, she caught me at the apartment and asked me to mediate a discussion between S15 and her, same night, we had a slight R discussion, I met her at Gym on Sunday to take her a check for her part of our tax refund.
Ok, do you see when you back off and NC even a little (b/c it's not like your going dark is truly dark), she starts to pursuit you? I told ya!!! Of course, maybe you don't want that, but if it is then something you should work on I think.
I had a disagreement with H something like that a week or 2 back. I think their upset reaction is prob. b/c they feel guilty that the kids aren't a priority for them as much as you or I or maybe most parents? They put themselves first before the kids. But then to take her guilt out on you for it sucks.
My pastor says there are no coincidences. You are being taken care of. I've seen that in my life this past year or 2 also. Karen
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