I always used to say listen to your instincts and I have been ignoring mine for too long, well I finally gave in and I've discovered W involved in an EA with a work collegue. W doesn't understand the concept of an EA so she doesn't believe she is doing anything wrong. But I've seen enough to know whats going on, emails, txt and IM'ng of a humourous, saucy and sexual nature not the sort of thing you would want your W discussing with another man. The clincher for me was an email where W said be carful what you send just in case Lan comes across it.
I won't go into the details of our conversation tonight because its all scrambled in my head but I've basically told W that we have no future if shes involved with anyone physically or none phisically. W denies it all and as normal her answers were limited to the extent of the knowledge I revealed. Also but not surprising for me W hasn't gone on the verbal attack to defend her postion so she knows shes been caught out.
I have remained calm with W, I haven't got into an argument about details but I've told her our future depends on us haveing open and frank discussions going right back to the beggining, the sort of stuff I've ignored or put on the back burner to give us a chance to work things out.
My instint now is to pack some bags and get the hell out of here for a few days, but D7 prevents me from doing that, so I'm gonna sit tight, but polite and respectful with W but give her space and just ponder my next move.
Any advice is apprieciated but I think my world famed patience is about to wear out.
