Dianes Roller Coaster Ride continued... lol

[Jayce]

Hi, kiddo. Rats! I was hoping he would loosen up a little more in the explanation department.

And you know me, I'd have initiated, then been bummed, I suppose. So all you get is a hug and an admission that he doesn't want sex in his marriage. I'm not surprised he doesn't get anything out of it because he's never there. I wonder if he saw himself as rescuing you...that you'd be grateful for the financial support since you were a single mom. I wonder if he'll bother coming home two months from now if he says he gets nothing from the marriage.

Now you have two months to decide that you can live with things as they are or make a move. Might be a good time for counseling since all of us here have the obvious bias, wanting more intimate marriages as you do. Our advice is slanted to say the least.

You are a young woman with kids doing work you enjoy. Can you do this on your own? You have lots of time to decide whether or not you want to marry again, move to a different city. You for sure wouldn't owe your H an explanation.

Counseling would help you realize what you really want to do. It would also help you discover why you chose the men you did and to avoid making a choice that wouldn't be good in the future. One reason people stay in marriages too long is to avoid admitting they made a mistake. You already overcame that in leaving an abusive man. Good for you! You know what's involved and that it is possible. No one is owed an explanation. If you are concerned about people asking you why and embarrassed to say he never wanted sex, then don't. It's nobody's business. People who are nosy & ask aren't owed an answer simply because they want one.

I get that you're relieved that he's gone back to work. I've felt that way when H goes to visit his bro for a week. But I do miss him. Or at least the best parts of him, like the good moods, LOL.

Even tho you still don't get what's going on in his head, check yours. Make those 2 lists: Better With & Better Without. + & -. It seems like its time to do that.

Have a relaxing week. Take the kids to a movie, go ot with the girls. Enjoy life as if you were single. See how it goes.
Thinkin' aboutcha,
Jayce