For the Guy with Kids and a WW 24

[hopeful4her]

I'm back.

Considering how much I used to post, then practically nothing.

Feels kinda weird.

I had been doing the same old same old with the wife. The nice emails back and forth. Then Thursday 2 weeks ago, the girls are with me for my week. I went to get them at the apartment like usual. She asks if I work on Saturday and I let her know that I do and that the girls are going to spend the night at my parents Friday night. The wife offers for me to take them by on Saturday morning and she'll stay with them until I get off work. I tell her that they can stay at my parents house. Its what I usually do.
On the way home, of course my sister is driving, I ask the girls if they want to stay at grandma's Friday night or at their mom's place. They both say their mom's.

Later that night, I call the wife to let her know that I had given the girls a choice and that they wanted to stay with her Friday night. She got bent out of shape and asked why I did that. What if she had plans. I told her I was sorry, that I thought she had offered. She corrected me that she had offered Saturday morning, not Friday night. I apologized and told her to forget it. She says that now it will look like she doesn't want to be with the girls and that I shouldn't assume that she doesn't have plans, even though she DIDN'T have plans, supposedly. I apologized again and told her that I misunderstood. They'll go to my parents. Back and forth and she says she'll stay with them.

About 20 minutes later, after stewing, I call her back and tell her that I didn't appreciate what she said. I told her that I've changed my plans before to be with the girls. The starts to say that I've never had to change my plans, that she never gets a weekend blah blah. I remind her that I HAVE changed my plans, I just never let her know about it. Again, a little going back and forth and we leave it at that.

I've been pretty much NC with her ever since. As much as I can be at least, considering. Since then, the next week, she referred a client to me, left me a VM, has been reminding the girls to call me at night, called me last week to vent about S15 and his dad, HER ex called me to vent about the situation(I didn't take his call), emailed me about Spring Break, she caught me at the apartment and asked me to mediate a discussion between S15 and her, same night, we had a slight R discussion, I met her at Gym on Sunday to take her a check for her part of our tax refund.

At the gym, I played with the girls for a few minutes and then told them bye. The girls, that is. I have not been saying anything to her. As I was leaving, the girls give me another goodbye and I look back to say goodbye again. She is sitting at a machine and looks at me and says "GoodBYE" with a smirk. Like, "Don't ignore me....I'm right here."

I'll never understand. I said "bye" without stopping.

We're splitting this week, even though its my week. Spring Break. She has the week off and I only have Thurs/Fri/Sat off.

I BOUGHT MYSELF A CAR!!

Picked it up Saturday. The wife had to work, so I picked up all the kids, we all said a prayer and went to go see the car. I bought it after some haggling. I took them to go eat and we said another prayer that it be a good car and takes care of us.

I have my freedom back. No carpooling with my sister anymore. I did invite her to stay with me at the house if she wants to, and she is for now.

Its a '96 Chrysler Sebring Convertible. One owner, she's had everything done like it was supposed to, timing belt, struts, new top, tires...great condition. 51 year old nurse who says she drives like a grandma and admits to being anal.

Perfect person to buy a car from.

Hope everyone is doing well.

Walking away from the accident, getting myself a car(which I completly believe is a gift from God)...

I do believe that I am blessed, and have a new lease on life.

And gonna take advantage of it.

The night I bought the car, and after mediating the wife and son, she asked if I had bought it from my car dealer friend. I simply said,

"No. It was just God taking care of me again."