I understand what you are saying. I don't think he ever came back with the intention of hurting you. I think he thought that you would be ok if things went back to how they were before. he was prepared for that. He wasn't prepared for a W who actually wanted to be married. A "Passionate Marriage", to steal a book title, You are not asking for anything that you should not ask for. And if he chooses not to give that, it is his choice. And it is you choice not to accect that. I don't think there is anything wrong with this picture.
