(((((Kalni))))) I feel your pain. I would feel/react the same way if my H told me he was still friends with OW. In fact, I HAVE reacted as you did when I found out H was still in contact with OW. I know that I cannot handle that, especially while trying to reestablish trust and rebuild the M. For me it is a deal breaker so I understand how you may feel.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz